Ask & You Might Get

Coming from the female side of things, we have a hard time asking for support. We are usually the care provider of our family. We give to our children and husband. Possibly also to aging parents, sick family members.

As females what we do for our family comes naturally and with love. We take care of the household, help raise our children with the right values and beliefs to become successful adults. Hopefully share in this process with our spouse.

My experience raising my family was I can do it all. See I come from the “baby boomer generation” and the belief “I am Woman and can do anything.” And I did. If I could do something that would be make life simpler for my spouse or children, I would do it.

This became a problem for me as my children grew and my spouse climbed the corporate ladder. Because I would do most everything involving keeping up the household and raising the children while my spouse was able to move up in the company to a position of great power and money. That is another story I need to write about later.

What I am getting at is this. I really didn’t know how to ask for support or help. My asking showed up in different ways, stress, panic, anxiety, unhappiness, tiredness. Sometimes I would get sick and not know why. These systems were affecting my health by my continuing to not understand the causes. Be aware of these signs your body is experiencing. Understand you have the control to change them. You might need professional help or a good friend to just listen.

Why is it so painful to ask for help? You have to know when the situation is right to ask and risk rejection from those you ask. Nobody wants to be rejected. Some think asking for help is a sign of weakness. It isn’t. It takes courage and wisdom to ask for what you want. The world won’t fall apart if they say no. Do come from a position of genuine need and clarity. Be willing to appear vulnerable. We aren’t Superwomen, capable of the all mighty, we are just like everyone else and need to be able to ask for what we need.

By asking for what we need, those who really want to help will. We are allowing others’ importance to be validated. People want to be needed and help those who truly want their help.

If receiving help from others is uncomfortable for you, get over it, you are not the only one benefiting from you asking. The rewards can go both ways.

Sometimes what we receive my not be what we were asking for. But somehow it will play a part in what we wanted. Keep your eyes and ears open.

Just 2 Bible Verses I want to share.

Matthew 7:8 - For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.

Matthew 21:22 - And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.